I have tried explaining about the expenses that incur, but they seem to neglect every time. My Mil in front of me says that ask her to give me money for house hold expenses. For e.g., if they want money, they will either ask to me through my kids or my hubby. Its difficult to make him understand, even my inlaws support him. When I try discussing the finance with him, he always has to say that, when you can pay EMI's why can't you bear these expenses. I have bought a house, in an distant place form city as an investment, for which I pay EMIs. But I have not disclosed my income to them yet. My husband income is less than what I earn. Hi Chetna, My inlaws have extra income in form of rent they get out of their property. I understand you do not family to discuss your prob but your kids r your strength. Better you talk to your hubby n decide mutually ur financial role n explain him you n ur kids also have right in his earning n b firm to ur decision.N u r his wife not a tenant who will give rent to him.you have legal right to stay in ur hubby house.Be Strong Girl you r going to b ideal for ur kids. Hi Deepti first of all I want to know ur inlaws r totally dependent on u or they have some financial earning? Is your husband salary is less than you? If both d conditions r not there then why Is he expecting to bear all d expense by u only.Its not only ur kids he should also have some financial responsibility.My hubby n me is bearing all d expenses to run d house although my hubby is definitely a bigger role to run d house.My FIL is also working n earning gud but my hubby do not allow him to spent any single penny in house n he says he should save everything for their old age n My in laws give every damn expensive thing to my SIL out of their earning but when it come to spend for our house then they nvr spend. My inlaws keep telling me that all the daughter in laws does all this, and I should be happily doing all this, to which I am really unsure what is happening to me :( Let me know, where I go wrong because I do not have other family members (my parents) whom I can share my feelings, and can guide me. My husband mentions as he is providing me with house to live (so I do not have to pay any rent). In the expenses that I incur there are no contribution given to me by my husband, as his earnings goes to his parents. My mil helps me in cooking dinner, she overlooks maids as they do their chores. Apart from this, electricity bill and the personal expenses of inlaws are taken care by themselves. She then keeps nagging me on the grocery items which gets over earlier. If he and her wives fights, he comes to eat with us along with his children. Apart from all these, I get groceries considering 8 members (members of my house), but my second bil who lives near by keeps on coming and picks up anything he fall shot in his house for e.g.: Onions, wheat flour, soap, any cooked food. I bear the following expenses for my house: Groceries, gas, vegetables, milk, children fess, their traveling allowance, maids (as I am working I have one to handle my kids and other for sweeping and utensils), children tuition fees. My second brother in law lives near by to our house, with his wife and 2 kids. Here is my story: I live in join family- Me, my husband, 3 kids, fil, mil and brother-in law. I feel I am drained, not sure if I am wrong but just wanted to share what I feel. Hello All, I am now a days a bit confused on how to handle finances within joint family.
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